If your two preschoolers are "fighting," you do them a favor by staying out of it, at least for a time. Psychologists at Indiana University say even three-year-olds are capable of negotiating, and adults need intervene only when safety or bullying is a concern. Strategic assistance may include these steps: * Get their attention. * Help them identify the problem and see the other's perspective. * Discuss possible solutions and guide them to an appropriate one. * Get agreement on a compromise. * Show how each benefits from the solution. This process also helps toddlers develop a moral code and interpersonal skills.